The Problem: I started my professional career in IT a little late. I have worked for years now and I am 42 years old. These last years were very fulfilling and I can say that I was very successful in my career. I traveled places and earned a good reputation in my field. I have earned substantially money and saved wisely to cater to my kids education.
Today at job I feel stagnated. Besides my salary has halved due to the world economic conditions. No new company wants to hire me as they want younger people. I tried almost for 2 years to start my own consulting firm, but did not get the desired results. I feel very low and wasted. I have stopped socializing as it costs money. I know if I kill myself it will hurt my family, but living like this is hurting me a lot. I have not discussed how I feel with my wife as I dont want to scare her. If I don't get anything by the end of this year, I am seriously contemplating on killing myself. It hurts a lot as even my parents are affected by all this.
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05:22:45 AM, Sunday, June 27, 2010 EDT
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I say dont kill yourself just have a little time off work and wor karound it. :)
...Jul 06 2010 3:38pmFLAGi want to die realy dont want to live anymore
sophie edgeJul 06 2010 3:39pmFLAGJoin the army or police and work on the bomb squad. Nobody will know if you killed yourself or it was just an accident. Your family will get lots of insurance.
Just SayinAug 23 2010 1:01pmFLAGalright stop this train of thought. killing your self just shows how selfish you are, hurting your family like that is just a d*ck move. you married your wife for a reason so talk to her she will be one of the only people that can truly help you through your midlife crisis. what do you think the world would be like today if everyone in the world killed committed suicide during the depression in the 1920's no where you and me would not be alive to have this conversation, and on top of that the recession we have right now is nothing compared to the depression in the 20's, we are already on are way to recovery, plus you only have to hang in there for another 10 plus years and you cloud probably retire. i my self feel really bad when i hear about suicide my heart litterally drops and im tempted to cry. so if you do kill yourslef you arent hurting just your family your hurting everyone, and dont listen to these d*cks that dont have any real advice there just ups who dont want to do anything but complain becuase they blew all there money on drugs or booze, or they dont take this seriously enough and think this is a joke. i asume you have kids, do you really want to miss them graduate, get married have kids, and possibly see them graduate get married and have kids as well. this is just something to think about and i hope you find the answers your looking for and make the selfless choice.
wally_007Aug 30 2010 12:32pmFLAGI don't blame you for having these thoughts but you should see a therapist. I have had these thoughts for years but seeing a therapist has helped me. It won't solve everything in your life but if you can build that bond with someone and tell them how you are truly feeling it might help.I have also found that when you get a new passion for life it helps. Just follow your dream and maybe thats not IT related. It could be spending more time with your family. Just take some time to work on yourself and rediscover the joys of life.
sadasdSep 24 2010 9:04amFLAGDUDE, DON'T DO IT. I DON'T GIVE A FLYING IF YOUR RELIGIOUS OR NOT, BUT IT'S A ONE WAY TICKET TO HELL, AND YOU WILL FOREVER BURN ON FIRE FOR ETERNITY. DON'T DO IT. DON'T! I'm TRYING TO SAVE YOU AN ETERNITY OF PAIN AND SUFFERING. IF YOU PRAY, GOD WILL PROVIDE YOU. HE ALWAYS HAS, ALWAYS WILL. GOD SPEED mY FRIEND. :)
CRAZY B1OTCH. :)Nov 02 2010 10:59pmFLAGi like what the last guy said your life is precious and you only get one.you need to enjoy the time you have left
meeeeeeeeeeeeeNov 22 2010 2:51pmFLAGdon't kill yourself, if ed me up when my dad killed himself. i'm . he killed himself for the same reason. Try a new job, something you've never done eg. ebay. Hope i helped!
begjessieNov 25 2010 1:08amFLAGdont kill your self whatever you do
meDec 02 2010 3:37amFLAGwow...killing yourself isn't worth it. you won't go to heaven that way, and it's definitely not going to prove anything to anyone. stick through the tough times, god won't put more on your plate than he knows you can handle!
alexandraDec 14 2010 4:57pmFLAG*** LISTEN UP PLEASE *** You say you don't want to scare your wife - don't you think it's gonna be a LOT worse than scaring her for the man she loves to be dead?
You need to talk to your wife. You need to get support. There are other rooutes to do what you want to do. I have contemplated suicide many times, but have found other ways to do what I want to do, or changed my career path to something else I enjoy.
You do not have to be perfect. Nobody in their right mind expects you to be (though your wife may think you are). We make mistakes in life and many of us royally screw things up - but most of us either fix things, or move on to something else and forget about (or ignore) the mistakes (but learn from them).
I'm a student doing a placement. I don't get a penny for it, and I'll get a low wage (much less than what you earn probably) but I won't care because I know I'll enjoy my job. You could pay me minimum wage and I'd still do it. I'd rather have a job I enjoy that pays hardly anything, than a well-paid job that I hate and that destroys my soul.
So do a job you enjoy. There are still jobs out there. Get some careers advice, speak to a counsellor, and for the love of goodness, SPEAK TO YOUR WIFE.
And you don't have to pay loads to socialise. If in the UK, just go to a pub and start talking to people. If in the USa or another country, go to a bar - you don't have to drink alcohol. Join a club or a community group, or perhaps even better: volunteer - do something positive, meet new people, and help to give yourself a purpose in life.
A good website (but it's mainly for the UK) is www.croad.jimdo.com
GuardianMar 24 2011 10:29amFLAGGo die we don't need pathetic losers like you your holding back evolution .
Sir scrotumApr 23 2011 12:16pmFLAGListen to Sir scrotum, hes right!!
Your a ing waste of everything, go kill urself ..NOW!!
Your MumAug 14 2011 4:36pmFLAGEven though you say this, I don't think you want to. I'm twenty years old and I wanted to kill myself because of somewhat the same reason and social problems. I have a good life, and so do you. My best friend, Jackson decided to kill himself for many reasons, and it ed me up for life. You have no idea how many people will miss you. You have family, kids. All you need is a job. You can work in the oil field, it's very fulfilling, is what people tell me. So trust me, don't do it.
AternityKanFliiMar 04 2012 3:01pmFLAGoh Come on.... Just think up... u have ur family.. loving wife and kids... u even have a job.. ur only problem is ur ego... u would have seen some of ur colleagues or friends earning more than u and so u want to earn more... thats it... If money is only ur problem, there are a thousand ways to earn... dont be selfish... U r not in pain... u r just imagining it... Take me for instance.. I am 22, lost the love of my life on my birthday after spending a whole day with him, cannot tell my parents cause they will force me to forget him and marry someone else.. head over heels in love with him and cant possibly even think of some one else.. and worst of all.. they told me that my astrology is so bad that anyone I marry will be dead with in 3 days.. Now I know that I myself killed him actually... feeling too guilty that I am still alive knowing that I have killed someone who meant every thing to me.. trust me.. thats pain... wat u r blabbering about is just ego and stupidity... Just try to lead a content and peaceful life.. dont be ridiculous..
RevathiJul 30 2012 5:38amFLAGbxlZlB I really liked your blog post.Really thank you! Want more.
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